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Michigan Update

Well, we are settling nicely in Michigan, and the transition, I am happy to report, has been smooth and fairly pleasant.

I love our sweet little 1940s house and tree-lined street.  When Matt and I were dating I told him that one of my favorite things in the world is a tree-lined street where the tree branches reach over the road and touch. Life's simple joys.

Our past four out-of-state moves have all been sight unseen.  It's always worked out and is actually kind of exciting pulling up to a place for the first time to "meet" your new home.  I squealed with delight when I pulled onto our tree-lined street 3 week ago.  The homes are small and older and charming, and there's lots of green, which I anticipate will become lots of white in a few months.

Normally this time of year, I would be setting up my classroom, writing desk name tags, and lesson planning, but the school year in Michigan doesn't start until after Labor Day so I still have a few weeks before hitting the ground running in late August.  It's such a gift, this extra time.

So while Matt is at work, I've just been a busy little bee - unpacking, organizing, and decorating our nest. There is something so satisfying about hanging curtains and staining shelves - doing something productive with your hands and seeing results.  I have become reacquainted with our power drill and level and hammer and completed these open shelves the other day.  I'm pretty proud of myself for not screwing it up.  I love how they turned out!

Ta Da!

I have decided too that unpacking boxes is much more fun than packing boxes. It feels kind of like Christmas.

When Matt came home from work and casually walked right through the previously-crammed-and-messy-but-now-box-free hallway and didn't seem to notice (!) the difference from when he left that morning, I told him in no uncertain terms that I need him to gush when he comes home and sees the progress I've made.  He learned that lesson fast.  Only now, he's hyper-aware.

The next day's conversation:

Matt:  "Did you move that plant to this table?  It looks great!"

Me:  "No, honey.  That's been there for 2 weeks.  But thanks for trying more to notice my progress!"

Matt:  "That candle.  That candle's new."

Me:  "Nope."


He's so sweet.


Here's a sneak peek of our little Michigan nest!  More pics to come later!

Our little home

Residency, Here We Come!

And just like that, med school's over and we're moving to Michigan!

Did somebody call a doctor?

We're packing it all up and driving north for Matt to begin his residency AND for us to continue what I have come to affectionately call:

My sweet friend Paulina made this for me!

Matt was gone for 5 months, July through November, traveling around for his orthopedic rotations, checking out different residency programs.

After that experience, he told me he really liked the residents in Michigan and was impressed with their skills.

I've always told Matt I think I could live anywhere.

Michigan though.  Thaat took a little convincing.

Florida has spoiled me with its 70-degree snowless winters and its nearby beaches.  Its shaved-ice stands and its tropical foliage.  Sure, my hair doesn't look great in humidity and the occasional roach sighting gives me a mild heart attack, but those are small prices to pay for paradise.  And we actually found an affordable place with a pool in the backyard.  A pool! I never thought I'd have a pool.  But there it is, shining and glistening in the sun in all its Florida glory, beckoning me to cannonball into it.  And cannonball I shall. Multiple more times before we must leave it.  Sigh.  (A moment of silence feels appropriate here).

Then God, in only the way that He can, gently and lovingly and uniquely reconfirmed the move to Michigan (which I will share about in another post), and any objection I had fell to the ground.


For those who care about the details, here are the answers to common questions I have received:


What is your timeline again?

• 4 years med school (Check!)
• 5 years residency (Here we go!)
• 1 year fellowship (Not on my radar yet)

When is Matt actually a doctor?
On May 7th, Matt graduated from med school and officially became Dr. Jackson!

What is residency?
Residency comes after med school and is in-depth medical training in one specific branch of medicine (ie. neurology or emergency medicine or pediatrics, etc.).  Every fourth year med student applies to various residency programs around the country and awaits "The Match" - that fateful day when you're told what residency program you "matched" to and where you will live for the next several years.

I thought you were in residency now.  Why did you move to Florida?
We moved to Florida for Matt to finish his last two years of med school - otherwise known as "rotations". Many people stay in one place all 4 years of med school.  Some get matched to do rotations in other cities the last two years, like us.

How long is residency?
The amount of years in residency depends on the specialty you go into (anywhere from 3 years to 7 years).

What is Matt's specialty?

Orthopedic surgery

How long will his residency be?

5 years

Where and when are you moving for residency?

We're moving this month to a suburb of Detroit called Royal Oak, Michigan.

Will you still be teaching?
Yes.

How do you feel about Michigan?

The first words that honestly come to my mind about Detroit are:  cold, cars, Eminem, and Kid Rock (in that order).  None of which I'm a huge fan of.  I told Matt I was looking forward to gathering new and better connotations about the area.  

I am sad about leaving my school, the friends we've made, and the warm sunshine of Florida.  But I am genuinely excited to follow our Good Shepherd to another place He has chosen for us. We'll have yet more new stories to tell about His faithfulness.  More interesting people to encounter.  More adventure to be had. I'm making a little list of nearby places I want to visit while we're there:  Niagara Falls, Toronto,...(thinking)...I guess that's it so far.  But those two are a good start.  Those places aren't actually in Michigan, but they're a short drive, so they made the list.  Feel free to make suggestions!

Overall, I feel excited about the next chapter and am just massively proud of Matt.

Residency, here we come!

Good Friday to Easter Sunday - from dread to joy

Easter is my absolute favorite holiday.  He is risen!  But first...a word (or a lot of words) about Good Friday.

I recently finished rereading the book of Leviticus, and was SO DONE with reading about all. the. sacrifices.  It became a little bit exhausting to read about it morning after morning.  I can't imagine actually doing it day after day, year after year.  So much blood!  I told Matt the Old Testament priests were basically full-time butchers.  How did they get all that blood out of their robes?

I was talking about this with our neighbors Mike and Katie the other week, when Mike told me about the Bible Project Leviticus video.  Have you heard about the Bible Project videos? They're fantastic!  Each video on a different book of the Bible is only about 5 minutes long and provides an excellent overview of the narrative and central message of that given book. Here's the one on Leviticus.  I had no idea about the literary structure of the book of Leviticus!  The Bible is so rich!

It amazes me that Jesus became my perfect high priest and atoning sacrifice all at once:

Jesus has already gone in there for us.  He has become our eternal High Priest in the order of Melchizedek.

- Hebrews 6:20

Unlike the other high priests, he does not need to offer sacrifices day after day, first for his own sins, and then for the sins of the people.  He sacrificed for their sins once for all when he offered himself.

- Hebrews 7:27

There are so many facets to what Jesus accomplished on the cross and through his resurrection, I can't fully wrap my brain around it all.  Marvelous mystery.

A couple years ago, I wrote this post about Jesus being our final atoning sacrifice as he endured God's full wrath (can you imagine??) for every heinous sin ever committed or to be committed.

This Easter weekend, I've been thinking about that curtain tearing and Jesus letting me enter into intimate, unencumbered relationship with Him.  That I get to actually know Him, his very person, makes my heart burst every time I think of it!   He challenges, disarms, and moves me with His unequivocal, personal love.

Which leads me to reflect on perhaps one of our most intimate moments that is forever burned in my memory as the day I wrestled with Him.

Good Friday - Grateful for Jesus who knew dread

Dread.

It's not a feeling I had ever really known before.  Sure, I had dreaded enduring a hard sports practice, or encountering a difficult person, or having a tough conversation. But past those experiences, true dread was not familiar to me.

Then, my dear dad was diagnosed with a possibly cancerous and inoperable spinal cord tumor, and I braced myself for the possibility of losing him.  And my heart ached in a way it had never ached before.  I've heard you're never really ready to lose a parent no matter how old you are.

Dad's most recent MRI had shown a mass extending from his mid-back to the base of his spinal cord.  The tumor, we were told, was inside his spinal cord and appeared to be growing fast.  That news made my heart sink.  The night before my flight to be with my dad, Matt had held me in his arms on our living room floor as I knelt in a ball and cried until my head hurt.

Our new rental house had roaches, stuff was not unpacked, and...home was not "home" yet. It was just a place we were staying.  Looking back, I'm grateful that we had a roof over our heads and a bed to sleep in and running water and air conditioning and our arms and legs. But at the time, I just saw bugs and boxes, an empty womb and a possible upcoming funeral for someone I loved very much.  My brain had been foggy for weeks.  Matt thought it was because of my iron deficiency after the miscarriage.  I don't know.  I just know I had the memory retention of a gnat and would wander into the kitchen and stand there wondering what to do next.  I felt like I was aimlessly floating around without my brain.

The day of my flight home to potentially say goodbye to my dad and be with him before the surgery, God in his love and amazing ability to carry me when I have nothing left, helped me write 30 pages of sub plans, finish progress reports, and hold parent teacher conferences. In a way, school had been a blessed distraction to me, allowing me to focus my mind on something other than dad's condition.

After my last conference, I ran to catch my flight, and once buckled in my airplane seat, was grateful to finally be still.  I watched as foreigners holding Disney World paraphernalia boarded the plane, and I was relieved that many of them didn't speak English and were too distracted to notice me.  When the plane was in the air, the lights off, the engine humming, I leaned forward, head down, resting on my folded arms, and cried silently.  "Oh Lord Jesus, please don't let my dad die.  I don't think I can do this."

I've heard from different people that it is important for the patient to go into surgery with a positive attitude, so I decided to steel myself and not cry in front of my dad.  My prayer went something like this, "Lord, please hold me together and help me not to be a basket case in front of dad and mom for their sake right now.  I want to be a blessing to them.  Show me ways to help them right now."  And He was faithful to answer that prayer.  He helped me hold it together during the days, until I could cry myself to sleep at night, trying to stifle the sound in my pillow so dad wouldn't hear me.  Perhaps more than the miscarriage, it was the hardest thing I've ever had to do.  My heart felt like it was being shredded.

My brother came over to my parents' house, and we reminisced as a family and laughed, then had a really intimate, powerful, worshipful prayer time huddled together.  Laying our hands on Dad and laying our specific requests before God, we each went around and prayed, thanking the Lord for his faithfulness and graciousness to our family over the years, praising Him for who He is and for the what He had taught us about Himself through my patient, loving, forgiving dad.  And we pleaded for healing, professing Him as the Healer and Great Physician.  It was a very sweet and special time.  (I did let myself cry during that time since we were all crying).  My brother prayed an eloquent and powerful prayer.  When it was my turn, my prayer was a little squeakier, but I prayed out loud for God's peace among other things, and was able to verbalize to God that I trusted Him and released my dad to Him. When we said amen and held each other in a long hug, I felt relieved to have released those tears with them, and I felt God's peace wash over me.

But then, that night, the dread hit me hard.  Being honest with God was not a new concept to me.  I had volumes of journals of our conversations together.  Me crying out and asking Him questions.  Him answering and assuring me with his Word.  But the night before my dad's surgery - possibly his last night on earth - I wrestled with Him in a way I had never experienced before.  There in my childhood bed, at my parents' house, alone, I had it out with God.  I had never ever even thought the things I said to Him that night.  It frightened me.  I was angry with Him. Really angry and really hurt.  I felt such utter dread about losing my dad.  God felt far.  At that moment, I didn't feel like calling him "Lord" or "Jesus" or "Father".  Just "God".  (Like when I'm mad at Matt, I don't call him "honey" or "babe").  "God" was the most generic, non-intimate name I could muster for Him that night as I wrestled with what I believed about him.

With tear-stained pillow and crumpled wads of kleenex scattered on the comforter and floor, I made my own personal plea.  "God, I'm not healed from the miscarriage yet.  Are you going to take my dad too?  I'm not ready to lose him!  Please, God, don't!  Do you kick your children when they're down?  Is that what you do?  Is that who are??  Are you cruel??  Is this a side of you I don't know? Who are you???!"

It had been a year since I had re-read Job with new eyes and When God Weeps - books that had profoundly shaped my theology of suffering and my beliefs about God's sovereignty in life changing, mind boggling, and comforting ways.  But that night, when the pain was mine and real and excruciating, not somebody else's and not just theological ... I wrestled.

"If this is your will, God, then I hate your will!  I do.  I hate it.  I don't know if I want to be yours if this is how you do things." 

Even while I was saying these things, I was ashamed that I felt them at all.  And so deeply.  I was ashamed at my lack of faith and trust.  But oh, the hurt!  And the anger!

And then, quieter and with shakier voice, "...oh God, I don't want to hate your will.  I'm frightened that I'm speaking to you like this.  Please don't smite me.  Where are you???"

And moments later, He brought to my mind a very clear picture of Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane, weeping and asking his Father to take a bitter cup from him.

"Jesus offered up prayers and supplications, with loud cries and tears."

"God, if there is any way you can take this cup from me, please take it!"

And then the words that I needed His help to say again:

"Nevertheless, not my will, but Yours be done."

Those words.  Such trust and surrender in the midst of absolute agony.  They always give me wondrous pause.  And I forced myself to say them.

“Being in agony he prayed more earnestly; and his sweat became like great drops of blood falling down to the ground.”

And I pictured Jesus's face with empathetic eyes looking at me, and I heard him say, "I know deep dread.  I am well acquainted with it.  You are not alone in this.  I feel your dread and am right here feeling it all with you, my darling."  And I melted into his arms.

To be honest, I was relieved that JESUS felt dread in regards to God's will.  That was monumentally comforting to me in that moment. Ultimately, Jesus surrendered of course and drank the bitter cup, but my! what validation he brought to the human emotion of dread for me.

I pictured him mirroring me on that bed.  When I buried my face and cried into my pillow, I imagined him crying into the pillow next to mine.  When there was a lull, and I lay on my side sniffling, he lay on His side looking at me with the kindest, most tender, gentle, loving expression I've ever imagined Him looking at me with.  As a quiet tear rolled out of the corner of my eye, a quiet tear rolled out of the corner of His.  And there we lay, looking at each other, until I finally fell asleep.

I could finally rest, having encountered the Jesus who knew dread and could carry mine.

Easter Sunday - Grateful for Jesus who conquered death

The next morning, Dad had his surgery (two in fact), and it was the most agonizing 13 hour wait to see him.  Miraculously, the doctors did NOT find a malignant, growing tumor as they had suspected, but something else entirely.  Something extremely rare but not life threatening. They did find a small benign tumor behind the non-life threatening fistula.  We all gave each other awed looks and prayed prayers of thanksgiving in the waiting room.  I went from utter dread to HOPEFUL JOY.

It was a foretaste of what Easter proclaims.

Dad lives with chronic pain now, so things aren't perfect for him yet.  As I know everything on this earth won't be until Jesus comes again.  Still, I pray for God to take that cup from him every day and to give him strength to endure his present suffering until that happens, which may or may not be on this side of heaven.  While we wait for his full healing, the Easter message brings me such HOPEFUL JOY - that Jesus rose and conquered death! and one day, dad will have no more pain!  There will be no more suffering of any kind!

I'm reminded again to embrace both Christ's suffering and his victory this Easter.

I love what John Piper says about it:

Indeed, even agony will turn to glory, but Easter doesn’t suppress our pain. It doesn’t minimize our loss. It bids our burdens stand as they are, in all their weight, with all their threats. And this risen Christ, with the brilliance of indestructible life in his eyes, says, “These too I will claim in the victory. These too will serve your joy. These too, even these, I can make an occasion for rejoicing. I have overcome, and you will more than conquer.”

Easter is not an occasion to repress whatever ails you and put on a happy face. Rather, the joy of Easter speaks tenderly to the pains that plague you. Whatever loss you lament, whatever burden weighs you down, Easter says, “It will not always be this way for you. The new age has begun. Jesus has risen, and the kingdom of the Messiah is here. He has conquered death and sin and hell. He is alive and on his throne. And he is putting your enemies, all your enemies, under his feet.”

When he wipes away every tear, our faces glisten more brilliantly than if we never would have cried. Such power is too great to simply return us to the Garden. He ushers us into a garden-city, the New Jerusalem. Easter announces, in the voice of the risen Christ, “Your sorrow will turn into joy” (John 16:20) and “no one will take your joy from you” (John 16:22).

Easter says that the one who has conquered death has now made it the servant of our joy.  Not only will he remedy what’s wrong in your life and bring glorious order to the mess and vanquish your foe, but he will make your pain, your grief, your loss, your burden, through the deep magic of resurrection, to be a real ingredient in your everlasting joy. You will not only conquer this one day soon, but you will be more than a conqueror (Romans 8:37).

HE IS RISEN!

35 on 35

Matt turned 35 today!

Here are 35 things I appreciate about him.

1. He is the smartest person I know.
2. But he's not show off-y about it.
3. He knows how to explain complex things in simple, non-condescending ways.
4. He loves plants and is really good at taking care of them.
5. He is teaching me how to take care of them too.
6. He loves animals.
7. But he is okay with us not having animals because I don't want to deal with them.
8. He recognizes and loves good music.
9. He regularly introduces me to this or that indie band,...which makes me feel a little cooler.
10. He patiently tolerates me listening to pop music now and then.
11. But we both agree on Adele.  She's amazing.
12. He plays guitar.  Really well.
13. He is honest.
14. He sees me.
15. He is silly.
16. He listens well....most of the time.
17. While I said I wanted to learn the moonwalk years ago, he actually learned it and practiced it and got decent at it.
18. Sometimes when I'm brushing my teeth, I'll see him moonwalking past the bathroom door then hear a crash because he ran into the vacuum cleaner in the hallway.
19. But he keeps right on going.
20. He's a voracious reader.
21. He had been quietly studying Greek (ya know, on the side during med school) for over a month before I realized it.  (see numbers 1 and 2)
22. He decided to learn Greek to read the New Testament with fuller understanding.
23. He is kind to outsiders.
24. He's an unapologetic introvert.
25. Who relates to people really well one-on-one and in small groups.
26. I love his thick, wavy hair.
27. He crushed his Boards in the midst of a season of personal pain and stress.
28. He recognizes that it was only Jesus who could have helped him do that.
29. He, like me, is a content homebody who enjoys an occasional outing.
30. He is committed to talking through junk.
31. He fights for our marriage.
32. He appreciates other cultures and loves getting to bust out a little Hindi when he meets an Indian person.  Which is usually met with a delighted smile.
33. He brought me flowers at work once...because I had been sad earlier that week.
34. If I brag to him about something, he will make a very realistic sounding "trumpet tooting its horn" sound with his mouth.  It's hilarious.
35. He will probably make that sound when he reads this list.

 Happy Birthday, Matt!!  You're the best!